My step dad is an ****... and?

I agree with Annie T, move in with your grandma. In the long run it's going to affect you. The environment you are living in is unhealthy, and you do know this. Your mother should be thinking about you, instead of just herself. I don't care if this man pays the mortgage, he has no right taking his frustrations out on you or invading your privacy by going through you mail. This man doesn't even respect your mother, so why is your mother even covering up for him. Call your grandma and let her come get you!!!!