Should I give my mom's boyfriend his way? or should I stand up for my personality and what I believe is right?

You are truly in a very unfortunate situation. The bad thing about all of this is you are living in his house and he is the one who makes the rules; regardless of how asinine they seem to be. He appears to be a very insecure person who has some major control issues. Be thankful you will be leaving in five months. Until then, in order to keep him somewhat at ease, you will probably have to continue doing what you have been doing so far. Is there anyone else with whom you could live until you leave for college? What is your mother doing during all of this over imposed rules and regulations? It also appears he is a little intimidated by you in that you are going to make something of yourself he was never able to do. The only way he knows how to combat someone who strives to be intelligent is to subdue them physically; such as he is doing with all his rules. He identifies with the people with whom he likes to ociate because they are very similar to him and he doesn't feel threatened by them. He could very possibly be a very lonely person because no one who is somewhat intelligent will have all that much to do with him. He is estranged from his military past and longs for the control he enjoyed when he was in the force. Bide you time and look forward to the time you will be free of him and with other people who appreciate someone of your ability and character. Don't give up on your dream of going to college. I had to work three part-time jobs to finish my degree and do my post graduate work, but wouldn't change it for anything. Good luck.